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Does Anger Management Counselling Help?

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A recent article in the British newspaper, “The Guardian” asked recently whether anger management counselling was effective. The overwhelming verdict was that it is, but there was a caveat.

Most people who suffer from anger management issues are not getting the support and counselling they need. The article highlighted the fact that it is almost impossible to go to the doctor and say you are suffering from anger and get treatment. Anger management counselling often only happens when it is too late and a crime has been committed.

Mike Fisher of the British Association of Anger Management notes his concern that “anger in our society is reaching pandemic levels but with very little help available” . Hi organisation has found that more and more people are booking onto courses to deal with anger management.

Inappropriate anger leads to domestic violence in the home, and illness for both those feeling the anger and those bearing the brunt of it. Fisher states that 8 women are killed in the UK a month as a result of anger fuelled assault in the home.

What can you do if you are suffering from anger issues?

First – get help. Go to a counsellor or therapist and talk to them. This will give you the opportunity to uncover what is causing the anger and start to deal with it. It is interesting that in the Guardian article Fisher discusses the increase of funding for CBT by the British government and states “CBT doesn’t get to childhood trauma, which is the root of serious anger problems”.

The answer? Work with a psychotherapist who will offer you transactional analysis or other therapies that do go back into your childhood. These are going to be more effective than CBT that treats the symptoms but not the cause.

You can find a good therapist by clicking on the links on this website. It only displays therapists that are in your area so you are likely to find some one suitable. Failing that, Google “anger management counselling (area)” and put your area in the space.

The best way to decide which counselling service is most suitable for you is to ring the counsellors up and have a chat to them. Go with the one you think you connect with best.

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Anger Management Counselling and Mindfulness

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Anger Management counselling can take many forms.  There are psychotheraputic approaches that will look at where your anger has come from, probably delving into your childhood and there are more cognitive approaches that will focus on your behaviour and how your thoughts link to that behaviour.

Another way that anger can be addressed is using a mindful approach.  I really like the idea of using mindfulness to tackle anger.  When we get in touch with our feelings and just accept them for what they are then great change can happen.

The idea of mindfulness originated in the east and is a central part of many religions such as Buddhism and Hinduism.  You don’t have to be religious to be mindful though, anyone can do it.

I have recently discovered a fantastic product that will allow you to learn a mindfulness approach to your anger in the comfort of your own home. The Mindfulness Approach To Anger Management by Craig Mollins is a course based on home learning using an ebook and audio.

It is an 8 week anger management program containing a 114 page E-Program and over 120 minutes of audio recording exercises. The program combines the skill of contemporary anger management processes with the transformative power of ancient mindfulness practice.

I like the program because it is clear, simple and will work if you have the discipline to follow it carefully.  I also love the gentle and positive approach that Craig puts forward.  To quote;

“It’s important to recognize right off the bat that you are not a bad person because you have problems with anger. Unless you consciously walk around all day thinking, “I truly want to be angry and I want to cause harm to myself and other people,” then you really should start giving yourself a break about your anger.

This is of course easy to say, and with anger we carry a certain amount of self hatred. It may not be easy to all of a sudden stop feeling this way, but right now at least, in this moment, as a beginning just acknowledge to yourself and to the world that you are not bad or somehow flawed for being angry.

At your most core, rock bottom, heart level you have a desire to be kind, open, and wise, and in fact you already are those things sometimes, perhaps often. So be gentle with yourself, and try to be understanding of your own situation. From there you can gradually start to make positive changes.” (Craig Mollins)

I would highly recommend this program to anyone who has anger issues.  Whilst the purchase price may seem a little steep it is about the same amount as you would pay for one session with a counsellor.  The program would also compliment work with a counsellor very nicely and speed up your ability to manage your anger.

Click Here to find out more about this fantastic program of anger management

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